(photo source)Annette says her affair with John the guy from the marketing started very leisurely. He paid attention to her; attention she had not been getting from her boyfriend. He noticed when she had a change of hairstyle or perfume or when she was in low spirits. He was concerned about her welfare in ways she felt her own boyfriend hadn’t done in a long time.
Alex blames monotony in his relationship for his affair. He says he feels like his relationship with Mercy has lost its flavor, the spark, the life that he feels when he sees Ann; the other woman.
Alex and Annette have two things in common; infidelity. Infidelity is defined as the act of being unfaithful to your wife, husband, or partner whether emotionally or romantically.
Alex and Annette have two things in common; infidelity. Infidelity is defined as the act of being unfaithful to your wife, husband, or partner whether emotionally or romantically.
There are many reasons why people cheat in relationships. For some it’s the feeling of being neglected hence they seek the attention from another person. Others its unresolved issues in a relationship or marriage that spill over in the form of an affair but for others they blame a certain monotony in their relationships therefore seeking some sort of excitement and new experiences from other partners. For others it’s the urge to get their ‘groove’ back by having an affair and for some it’s the thrill and rush of doing something dangerous and not getting caught.
It’s been said that most women cheat emotionally. Women value emotional intimacy and when they feel emotionally neglected, unaccepted, unappreciated, etc some will go look for it from someone willing to give it.
It’s been said that most women cheat emotionally. Women value emotional intimacy and when they feel emotionally neglected, unaccepted, unappreciated, etc some will go look for it from someone willing to give it.
No matter the reason, infidelity is a painful betrayal that sometimes leaves the victim blaming themselves for the affair, questioning their self worth and sometimes nursing scarred self esteem. Some carry these experiences with them and harbor resentment and insecurity in future relationships. For those who cheat it may be a behavior partner or a onetime slip, either way; it’s a flaw in character and unless they analyze their behavior and see where they went wrong, it won’t matter how many relationships they are in; they will be bound to cheat.
Coping with infidelity is task that involves a huge resolve from both parties in the relationship.
I can recall the time when my ex-boyfriend cheated on me; I took him back and forgot about my bruised trust in him. I constantly suspected him and interrogated his every move. Despite the fact that everything was over with him and the other woman, the thought of his affair lingered in my mind for a long time and this was the cause behind on and of arguments between us.
It reached point I couldn’t stand it anymore. I woke up one day and told him it was over. It’s that day that I made a vow that I would never tolerate any form of infidelity in my future relationships.
It reached point I couldn’t stand it anymore. I woke up one day and told him it was over. It’s that day that I made a vow that I would never tolerate any form of infidelity in my future relationships.
In most cases, trust is broken and sometimes can’t be rebuilt again. There are those couples who decide to give their relationship another chance so in this case a lot of effort and forgiveness is needed from both parties.
At the end of the day, every relationship takes work and in the case of infidelity, A LOT of work. And oh yeah being cheated on sure sucks!! I know the feeling It happened to me.
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