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Posted by Editor On May - 24 - 2011

Sesame Mosweu is taking Bostwana media industry by storm; a true MOGUL in the making. She is not only a radio and TV presenter but an actress, lawyer and entrepreneur. Sesame has been on radio for 4 years and television since she was 19 years old.

Woman Making Moves: Jinna Mutune

Posted by Editor On May - 23 - 2011

A young, energetic rising star, Jinna Mutune is an aspiring Director from Eastern Africa whose native country of East Africa provides the perfect backdrop and inspiration for her creative mind. Jinna majored in Directing and Producing at the South African School of Motion Picture Medium and Live Performance [AFDA, Johannesburg, South Africa] and a course in Film Studies from the Houston Community College in Texas, USA and Fitchburg University (MA)

Woman Making Moves: Lisa Mundembe-Chuma

Posted by Editor On May - 23 - 2011

Apart from being an International Speaker for Schools in the UK, Lisa Mundembe-Chuma, originally from Zimbabwe is also the founder of Inspirational Woman Magazine a global women’s magazine that promotes unity amongst all women and celebrates women despite possible differences.

Woman Making Moves: Tiffany Aliche

Posted by Editor On May - 23 - 2011

Tiffany Aliche, better known as ‘The Budgetnista’ describes herself as a preschool teacher, tomboy, travelnista, social butterfly, chatterbox turned financial coach, speaker and author. A passionate teacher of financial empowerment, the New Jersey native earned a Bachelor’s Degree in Business Administration from Montclair State University and passed up a career in corporate America to teach undeserved youth in Newark, NJ.

Woman Making Moves:Amanda Ebokosia

Posted by Editor On May - 23 - 2011

Amanda Ebokosia is the founder and CEO of The Gem Project, Inc. The Gem Project is a nonprofit organization that educates school-age children, youth, and young adults about issues that are affecting them and their communities. Through the use of the organization's innovative programs, the Gem Project is able to hone the skills of leadership and community organizing skills of our youth.

Woman Making Moves:TolumiDE

Posted by Editor On May - 23- 2011

TolumiDE, pronounced toe-LU-me-day, is a Nigerian - Canadian Singer and Songwriter. Her name is a fusion of er first name Tolu and last name Olumide. TolumiDE who currently lives in Washington, DC was born in Toronto, Canada, she attended Primary and High School in Lagos, Nigeria and later studied Fine Art in the University in Toronto, Canada.

Woman Making Moves: Vickie Remoe

Posted by Editor On May - 23 - 2011

While in grade school, most of the comments from her teachers on her report card noted "very clever but too talkative” what they did not know was that Vickie was destined for greatness with her skill. Born and raised in Sierra Leone, host Vickie Remoe, who is currently in Freetown, received a Bachelor of Arts Degree in Political Science from Haverford College in Pennsylvania, U.S.A

Woman Making Moves: Myne Whitman

Posted by Editor On May - 23 - 2011

Nigerian blogger and author, Nkem Akinsoto is greatly known in the blogsphere by her pen name Myne Whitman. The full time writer and blogger has a Masters degree in Public Health Research but decided to follow her childhood dreams of writing popular fiction to get people writing.

It Happened To Me

Posted by AfroElle On 3:29 AM
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Annette says her affair with John the guy from the marketing started very leisurely. He paid attention to her; attention she had not been getting from her boyfriend. He noticed when she had a change of hairstyle or perfume or when she was in low spirits. He was concerned about her welfare in ways she felt her own boyfriend hadn’t done in a long time.

Alex blames monotony in his relationship for his affair. He says he feels like his relationship with Mercy has lost its flavor, the spark, the life that he feels when he sees Ann; the other woman.
Alex and Annette have two things in common; infidelity. Infidelity is defined as the act of being unfaithful to your wife, husband, or partner whether emotionally or romantically.

There are many reasons why people cheat in relationships. For some it’s the feeling of being neglected hence they seek the attention from another person. Others its unresolved issues in a relationship or marriage that spill over in the form of an affair but for others they blame a certain monotony in their relationships therefore seeking some sort of excitement and new experiences from other partners. For others it’s the urge to get their ‘groove’ back by having an affair and for some it’s the thrill and rush of doing something dangerous and not getting caught.
It’s been said that most women cheat emotionally. Women value emotional intimacy and when they feel emotionally neglected, unaccepted, unappreciated, etc some will go look for it from someone willing to give it.

No matter the reason, infidelity is a painful betrayal that sometimes leaves the victim blaming themselves for the affair, questioning their self worth and sometimes nursing scarred self esteem. Some carry these experiences with them and harbor resentment and insecurity in future relationships. For those who cheat it may be a behavior partner or a onetime slip, either way; it’s a flaw in character and unless they analyze their behavior and see where they went wrong, it won’t matter how many relationships they are in; they will be bound to cheat.

Coping with infidelity is task that involves a huge resolve from both parties in the relationship.
I can recall the time when my ex-boyfriend cheated on me; I took him back and forgot about my bruised trust in him. I constantly suspected him and interrogated his every move. Despite the fact that everything was over with him and the other woman, the thought of his affair lingered in my mind for a long time and this was the cause behind on and of arguments between us.
It reached point I couldn’t stand it anymore. I woke up one day and told him it was over. It’s that day that I made a vow that I would never tolerate any form of infidelity in my future relationships.

In most cases, trust is broken and sometimes can’t be rebuilt again. There are those couples who decide to give their relationship another chance so in this case a lot of effort and forgiveness is needed from both parties.
At the end of the day, every relationship takes work and in the case of infidelity, A LOT of work. And oh yeah being cheated on sure sucks!! I know the feeling It happened to me.

Guest Writer: Esy Gichobi


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