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Posted by Editor On JULY - 18 - 2011

Time flies, can you believe we are already past the half year mark? Just the other day we welcomed the New Year with long lists of resolutions. Well, the year doesn’t feel so new anymore, it’s that time of the year when energy levels sink, we get sucked into the routine of life and many times become complacent. All these are symptoms of Mid Year blues.


Posted by Editor On JULY- 18 - 2011

Growing up, I was a ‘someday girl’. I had dreams of someday publishing a book, someday working for a newspaper, someday being an editor, someday. Until one day many years later I woke up to the realization that someday was today; the only assurance we have, not 2 years from now or tomorrow but today.


Posted by Editor On JULY - 18 - 2011

For some April habitually brings in to mind Spring; sunshine, blooming flowers, the green of trees and sliding into flip flops. For me, April is just April because luckily where I live the beauty of ‘Spring’ and getting high on Vitamin D is something I experience every day.


Posted by Editor On JULY - 18 - 2011

As I kid, one of my all time favorite TV shows was 'The Jefferson’s'. As I write this, the theme song is playing in my head. “Well we’re movin’ on up, to the east side, moving on up, to a deluxe apartment in the sky. Moving on up, to the east side, moving on up,we finally got a piece of the pie.


Posted by Editor On JULY - 18 - 2011

February is a special month, apart from the red roses, boxes of chocolate, great deals and the romance, it’s also the month we celebrate the history and contributions of African American men and women to society in the name of Black History Month.


Posted by Editor On JULY - 18- 2011

Happy New Year!Yes, I know I'm a little late on the wishes just like the way I'm late with our new January Issue but it's finally here. New year, new layout, new name, basically, new things. Its all about the new new! For all those who knew this blog as The Ladies Room, I now introduce you to AfroElle; a blog for women of afro-descent from all over the world.


Posted by Editor On JULY - 18 - 2011

The year has literally flown by, I can't believe it's already December. To many, December is a month of in depth self evaluation and stock taking; taking that walk down memory lane to see if you accomplished the goals you set at the beginning of the year.It's also about looking at your present to see what has worked for you or what you need to eliminate before you head on to the new year.

Featured Couple; Michael & Irene Phillip

Posted by AfroElle On 2:51 AM
Michael Phillip and Irene Khakula met in the September of 2001 at Hudson County Community College where they shared two classes. They became friends and since then their friendship blossomed into something meaningful.

They started dating in 2004 and on August 8, 2009 tied the knot in a fairy tale wedding at Faith Fellowship Ministries, Sayreville NJ.

We met in college; we shared a class and I remember one day right before the start of class Michael asked me where I was from. I was wearing these earrings which looked like the map of Australia. Coincidentally, that same day the professor paired us up and we had to work on a project and make a presentation. We became very good friends from then on and our friendship blossomed into something more.

 Meant To Be....

The 'One' I Prayed For

Did I know the relationship would to marriage? No. Michael and I had been friends for a long time before we began dating, and I never thought that he was the one I would marry. However, I always prayed for God to lead me to the right person. All this time he was right under my nose.

I didn't know he was the one right away. There were a lot of instances that may have led me to know that he was the one, but I did not grasp it right away. I just watched as God transformed Him to the man he is today.

My Hearts Desires

I always wanted a man who esteemed and had respect for God. I figured if he had loyalty and devotion to God, then he would definitely treat me with respect. I always wanted an introvert and reserved kind of guy, humble and polite. And God gave me all these things and more, in Michael.

God knows me so much that even now during marriage I see qualities in Michael that have been fashioned to suit my character. I don’t know if someone else would’ve been able to understand me the way he does.

Marital Bliss

The bride getting help from her bridesmaids on her big day

The bride and groom with their best man (Michael's brother) and best maid (Irene's sister) Little angels

The part I love most about marriage is knowing that I married my best friend and that he is the one I want to be with forever. I love it when I put a smile on the man that I love by catering to him. I am fulfilled when I am able to be a help to him in small and in big ways.

To Love And To Cherish

I've learned that you can make your marriage work by being selfless and having respect for your spouse. You have to treat him courteously and don’t take him for granted. It goes a long way when you refrain from using words that are hurtful to your spouse. Build him up, don’t break him down. It ceases to be only about you, now you are in a lifetime journey together.

You have to make time for each other. It sounds cheesy but in today’s world where everything is so fast paced, you need to set time for you and your loved one to reconnect on a daily basis. Don’t just assume everything is ok, ask him how his day was, go the extra mile to make sure he is okay.

For As Long As We Both Shall Live...

Marriage is a living thing, and what do you do to anything that is alive? You have to maintain it. Keep it alive. You can't just neglect it. You have to feed it and make it grow. Invest in it. You will get out of it what you put into it.

What God Has Put Together..

Despite the negativity, fears, challenges out there for married people, we have God in our marriage. We know that we cannot make it on our own. The enemy is out to attack marriages and the best protection is being under the blood of Jesus at all times. We always depend on God to refresh us daily. We pray together, talk about things of God together, read the bible together. We let God be the center of our union. Ecclesiastes 4:12 which reads: "...A cord of three strands is not quickly broken" . We believe that God created marriage to be lived as a three-way covenant between God, husband and wife.

Loving past the honeymoon

The bride and groom sharing a moment

Michael and I have a very good relationship. We do almost everything together. We always bring that special (new) feeling by trying different things. We go out on a date every week. We try not to have a routine, but always spice things up, eat at different spots and basically have fun experiences together.


To the single woman: Don't just settle due to pressures from society. God made you and He knows you, He knows what your weaknesses and strengths are. So trust Him and wait on Him. Don’t be afraid to describe to Him what you want. Be your best every day and stay positive instead of complaining. Matt. 6:33-34 “Seek Him first.”

To the newly wed: No marriage is the same. Don’t try to compare your spouse/marriage with someone else’s because it is never the same. You are unique and special. Focus on making your marriage the best that it can ever be instead of looking at others. Refrain from telling your problems/ issues to your girlfriends and comparing notes; marriage is between you, your mate and God. They are not married to your mate, you are. So work it out between you and your spouse instead of airing your laundry to people who may only make things worse.

The Phillips celebrated their one year anniversary last week. We at the Ladies Room celebrate their union and wish them God's blessings in their life long journey.

The Ladies Room is looking to feature married couples or those engaged, we would love to hear your story. Email


6 Response to "Featured Couple; Michael & Irene Phillip"

  1. Anonymous Said,

    They are such a beautiful couple! I have learnt alot from the interiview. God bless them


  2. Myne Whitman Said,

    They're so lovely and her advice is the same I would give. Just be with the person you love and spice it up, don't compare.


  3. Anonymous Said,

    They are so blessed to have each other, it does take God to end up with the one whose meant for us. I totally digg the advice, its so real and personal to anyone who wants to take that step..great read!May God richly bless their union!


  4. nash Said,

    Irene, really appreciate this love story and have learnt alot about being a woman of integrity. It takes God to make you be one. Thanks for sharing, am sure that as its been a blessing to, it's gonna be a blessing to many women out there. Thanks for sharing and God bless your marriage abundatly. In our prayers.


  5. Anonymous Said,

    Great Story..God Bless their union.


  6. Daughter of Her King Said,

    I like the advice offered to both singles and married. don't discuss your relationship details with friends, tell God instead...

    Nice story and God bless their union.


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