Hi Ladies,
I have been single for awhile now, I'm turning 28 in a few months, translation; almost hitting the big 3.0. I feel like am at that point in my life where I want to be in a relationship that will lead to marriage but I don't see any prospectives. I feel left out, my girlfriends who we graduated from college with are either getting their first babies, getting married or are engaged and its very easy to feel left out like I do now.
Nowadays it seems like everywhere I turn, I wonder if the next guy is 'the one', like in church, at work or even at the supermarket. I'm not sure, at this point I might just be reading the signs all wrong. I don't want to settle with just anyone and I don't want to be desperate. What to do?
Truly,
Searching in South Africa
I empathise with you. I advise that you to not get desperate.Mr.Right will look at you and notice you when you are busy doing something else and not look actively for him. Love happens when theres no pressure and when you are busy living your life. So i say turn up the gear in having an active social life, meeting people, making new friends learning new things and getting invoved in what you love doing most:hobbies. Enjoy your life and i mean really genuinely enjoy it.Mr. Right will like a woman who is secure in herself and is enjoying her life and activities,that makes you interesting to be with.Pray for the man meant for you because God sees the heart above all else!He is the best match maker!
You can find love.... Just be patient.
Time teaches us a lot of things and as you grow older you need to take a to understand that GOD has the masterplan .HE is the author of the story of your life and because of that you need to be at peace .If HE is in control HE knows the seasons of your life and will direct it accordigly .You are probably thinking girl .I've heard this before well I was singel for 4 years and in those years I grew ,I learnt about myself and in the midst of being caught up with GOD Mr Man appeared . Take this time that you are alone to reflect on who you are ;what do you desite in a potential husband and begin to declare that GOD moulds you into becoming the partner your fiance will adore and know immediately that you are all he has been searching for . I learnt that as different as we are we all have our own stories ,celebrate your friends .There is no greater liberation in knowing and anticipating the day you will alos be celebrated . You are GODs darling *Songs of Solomon says so* don't look for "the One" declare that "the One" will find you complete and perfect and when you meet him you will know . Take a step back and take a deep breath HE knows every desire you have and HE will fulfill it .Don't settle .Be very clear on what you want and don't compromise .When you let go and let GOD ,there when you least expect it will appear the man you wrote down and told GOD about.
I'm a living testament to that and GOD answers prayers ,down to the smallest details ;even height .
HE knows exactly what you need ,so trust HIM ,dear .
i agree with ZBR
Kick back and concentrate on your relationship with God, make time to talk to Him, ask for guidance in whatever as you would ask someone next to you. Take time out to do things for you, re-discover yourself and as you get acquainted with the fabulous you, you had forgotten about, you will be surprised....Mr. Right will be right around the corner.
"Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own undestanding..."
you need to be the perfect you before you find the perfect guy for you.
If you need a man to validate your existence then your not going to find a good man, your going to find a man looking for a desparate woman.
Each person in their own time, dont use your friends as a benchmark, it will only make you feel inadequate and unhappy. Find other friends that have more going on in their lives than their babies and their husbands
Face the possibility that you might be the one in your group of friends that stays single, its not that bad. Find ways to cope with that and still be happy.
What's bad is to settle for less because you so badly want a man.
Focus your energy on something else, like your career, a hobby, helping the less fortunate...
I don't mean to sound harsh... but I am a single girl myself I'm not going to throw you a pity party. Don't listen to other people telling you that your key to happiness is to wait for a man to make that happen. Start being happy today, if someone comes along that is worthy of your love and attention, give it a shot but dont make 'waiting' your life plan!
Good luck