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Posted by Editor On JULY - 18 - 2011

Time flies, can you believe we are already past the half year mark? Just the other day we welcomed the New Year with long lists of resolutions. Well, the year doesn’t feel so new anymore, it’s that time of the year when energy levels sink, we get sucked into the routine of life and many times become complacent. All these are symptoms of Mid Year blues.


Posted by Editor On JULY- 18 - 2011

Growing up, I was a ‘someday girl’. I had dreams of someday publishing a book, someday working for a newspaper, someday being an editor, someday. Until one day many years later I woke up to the realization that someday was today; the only assurance we have, not 2 years from now or tomorrow but today.


Posted by Editor On JULY - 18 - 2011

For some April habitually brings in to mind Spring; sunshine, blooming flowers, the green of trees and sliding into flip flops. For me, April is just April because luckily where I live the beauty of ‘Spring’ and getting high on Vitamin D is something I experience every day.


Posted by Editor On JULY - 18 - 2011

As I kid, one of my all time favorite TV shows was 'The Jefferson’s'. As I write this, the theme song is playing in my head. “Well we’re movin’ on up, to the east side, moving on up, to a deluxe apartment in the sky. Moving on up, to the east side, moving on up,we finally got a piece of the pie.


Posted by Editor On JULY - 18 - 2011

February is a special month, apart from the red roses, boxes of chocolate, great deals and the romance, it’s also the month we celebrate the history and contributions of African American men and women to society in the name of Black History Month.


Posted by Editor On JULY - 18- 2011

Happy New Year!Yes, I know I'm a little late on the wishes just like the way I'm late with our new January Issue but it's finally here. New year, new layout, new name, basically, new things. Its all about the new new! For all those who knew this blog as The Ladies Room, I now introduce you to AfroElle; a blog for women of afro-descent from all over the world.


Posted by Editor On JULY - 18 - 2011

The year has literally flown by, I can't believe it's already December. To many, December is a month of in depth self evaluation and stock taking; taking that walk down memory lane to see if you accomplished the goals you set at the beginning of the year.It's also about looking at your present to see what has worked for you or what you need to eliminate before you head on to the new year.

Editor's Note; In Brief

Posted by AfroElle On 1:02 AM 0 thoughts

"Time passes. Life happens.
Distance separates. Children grow up. Marriages fail. Love waxes and wanes.
Hearts break. Careers end. Jobs come and go. Parents die. Colleagues forget
favors. Men don't call when they say they will... But girlfriends are there.
They are not only your friends, but your sisters, your daughters,
and other
relatives too. You'll need other women. Women always do."
Every woman needs girlfriends, Zoe knows this and gets to share with you why she loves her girlfriends in our new feature 'Ladies Talk' and in the 'Ladies Journal', freelance writer and blogger Jamie Fleming explores the question , 'Are women their own enemies' in her article 'Women and Friendships.'
This week's Round Table Discussions we hear what the men think about 'our girlfriends' and the influnce they have in relationships.You will also enjoy our new 'Phenomenal Woman' featuring FEZ; a Ugandan fashionista ready to take the Uganda fashion industry by storm.
Our featured couple in our 'Love & Relationships' category both documented their First 100 days of their marriage in separate blogs, we talk to Mrs. Nichols about her marriage.
Next week time we talk about long distance relationships, have something to say, email us at
The Ladies Room; a place of release and comfort, of hearty conversations and open arms

Featured Couple: Russell & Asia Nichols

Posted by AfroElle On 1:00 AM 1 thoughts

Russell and Asia Nichols tied the knot on May 13, 2009, at an intimate beach wedding on Pigeon Island in St. Lucia.

They documented their First 100 days of marriage in two separate blogs His & Hers where they blogged about issues like 'Should a wife change her last name?', 'Does the lingerie disappear after the honeymoon?' , 'Is a husband wrong when he wants space? What about joint accounts?' and so much more.

In his 100th post Russell writes,".....We have been married for 100 days. I can't say what the next 100 days will look like, let alone the rest of our lives. I can't even say what tomorrow will hold, but know that I am holding onto your heart for dear life. I look forward to spending forever with you. I look forward to showing you love in ways you've never seen or felt. I look forward to becoming a better man with you, for you...."

We talk Asia Nichols, a full-time student in Sacramento, CA, studying Human Services, about their love story.

Meeting Russell

We met in high school. I was a sophomore, he was a junior. One day a friend handed me a letter and said someone wanted me to read it, but wouldn’t say who. My husband is a wordsmith, a journalist. I was hooked by the second line. After that, we started a relationship that lasted only six months; we were young. We ended up seeing each other for the first time in seven years at a gathering with a bunch of high school friends. Initially neither one of us was impressed, or so we say. But later that evening, we played and intense game of Connect Four (We’re both competitive). We decided to try love for a second time, and every step from that point led us to where we are now.

'The One'
It was a bit complicated knowing he was the man of my dreams. Sometimes I just knew without question; other times I prayed for a sign. Let’s just say I knew when he showed me that love is more than feelings. A true love experience is never one that feels good around the clock. When I was able to look the hard times in the face and say, “Is that all you’ve got?” is when I knew I was ready to go all the way.

Of Lessons
Marriage has taught me about teamwork. So much can be accomplished when we have an understanding of God’s marvelous design for married couples. I’ve learned the importance of working together in every aspect of our lives: physical, spiritual, financial, as well as career goals and life dreams. We put all our wants on the table and as a team we support and encourage one another.


Marriage has changed me in many ways. Each day is an opportunity to polish my character; these daily challenges have helped me develop as an individual and as a wife. I look back over our time together and can see progress I’ve made. That’s one thing I love about marriage: it stimulates personal growth.

The 'Spark'

We like to spark up our relationship by trying new things as often as we can. We’re both adventurous and open to new experiences, which makes it easier to find activities that we’ll both enjoy. Russell and I do things like zip lining, scuba diving, rope rappelling, and we’re also making plans to skydive some time soon. We play plenty of board games and make our own incentives. For us, the fun and excitement of a challenge is what keeps the spark in our marriage alive.

The one I was meant for

I believe that life is full of choices, and choosing a mate is one of them. We are all given a sea of options. No choice we make will be perfect; it just depends on which imperfections we prefer to deal with for the rest of our lives. That’s when the list comes in handy. Everyone should have a personal list of all the things that are absolutely necessary to them in a relationship. And in time, some items on the list can change—I know mine did. But the core values remain the same. So to answer the question, I believe we are given the freedom of choice to select our own soul mates.
A Good man
To me, a good man is a praying man; A man who has a genuine relationship with God will know how to love and care for his wife and family. Life won’t be easy all the time, but he knows this and asks for God’s wisdom, strength and direction. When a man accepts that he can do nothing in his own strength, a heavy burden lifts from his shoulders and he calls on The One who can. This is a valuable quality in a marriage.

Everybody 'Needs' Love

Women need alot in relationships but every woman is different. While I may desire more communication, someone else may need adventure. It depends on what she values most, and values change as we progress. In my marriage, communication was once a huge issue. I’m a talker and initially my husband was not. I often found myself having to guess my way through our relationship, which caused me to overload him with questions. It took me a while to realize that my constant digging only lessened my chances to hear his thoughts. For a while, we clashed in this area until we both discovered how to make our differences work for us.

We now have a little tool called compromise: He communicates more often, and as a result I have less to wonder about—and not always in that order. I may be first to stand down, giving him room to speak out on his terms. I’ve learned this to be a sure-shot way to satisfy my husband’s needs as well as my own.

Of Challenges; Ain't No Mountain High Enough

Probably the word itself. There are so many ideologies around marriage that we sometimes fall prey to them, putting a lot of pressure on the relationship. We shouldn’t have to worry about the “right time” to purchase a home or start a family, or having to always show up at events together because that’s what married people do. The most challenging part of marriage is all the societal expectations that accompany it.

Words of Advice
Be prepared. I highly recommend premarital counseling. We did it and learned a lot about our individual ideas on what a spouse should be. The sessions taught us to dig deeper and look at personal and family values. Those same values will surely take form in your marriage and you want to be sure that the two of you are on the same page. Most importantly, make your own traditions. The best gift that Russell and I give each other is a personalized relationship, one not bound by the restraints of conventional beliefs. Do what works for the two of you and enjoy a custom-made life.

Are you married, do you want to share your love story? Send us an email @ and we can feature you in this segment.


Ladies Talk; My Girlfriends

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Men have come and gone in my life, but my girls, they will be always there for me. We fight, disagree, and treat each other coldly then we quickly patch things up.

We laugh at secret jokes and say some of the meanest things to each other. We defended each other when others won't and do some of the silliest things together.

There's so many stories to be recalled when we are together. There was a time one of my girl and I were about to sleep at the police central because the man that we were with ditched us, but we talked our way out of it or the time during one of my worst confused breakups, one of my girlfriends spoiled me with retail therapy as I shopped with emotions taking me over and later she was to be my pillow and my radio as she sang me too sleep. It’s the simple things like trying to ward off men hitting on one of us, struggling with security and silly fun nights out full of drama.

I could go on and on about my girlfriends but this is true; I heart them and am glad to have them in my life.

They say, girlfriends are the people you can share your secrets with, cry with, laugh with, and just be yourself with. They don't judge you or make you change. They accept you exactly as you are. They look at you and they see a great person, one they love spending time with. You all share something in common and are tied together by memories, tears, laughs & smiles. You're tied together by love for the other. Men come and go but my girlfriends are eternal,they are my heart, my soul, my fun, my laughter, my tears, my love and my life" ~ Unknown

Zoe Glorious,Kenya