Posted by AfroElle On 2:02 AM
"It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop (on the flat, oriental roof exposed to all kinds of weather) than in a house shared with a nagging and quarrelsome and fault finding woman."
"It is better to dwell in a desert land than with a contentious woman and with vexation."
The book of Proverbs is one that always has something in it for me. It’s not one of those books of the Bible that I have to pray so much before reading, as in I can read it even when I’m not feeling ‘spiritual’.
So I came across these verses in the same chapter and I wondered about it. First, I wondered why the writer had 2 similar verses in the same chapter (did he think maybe we didn’t see it the first time?) and then I thought about the ‘woman’ described above.
Maybe she never started out as a nagging and quarrelsome person. Maybe she was once a sweet and loving woman. Maybe she used to be the kind of woman that everyone wanted to talk to. Maybe she was the kind of wife, every man wanted to be married to; the kind of daughter in every mother’s dream.
But then at some point she came against issues and circumstances that left her tired and bitter. Maybe she had to endure the loss of someone dear to her or maybe she was betrayed by someone she had trusted in or maybe things stopped working the way she had planned it in her head.
Like many of us, she had reason to be this way, she had proof of the blows life had dealt her and felt her behavior was justified.
Truth is, we have no excuse. Irrespective of what comes our way, we have the choice of what to shake off and what to let in. Please know that I’m not calling us to a life of pretense or hypocrisy. I’m not saying that you act in a manner different from how you feel. By no means!
I’m saying that instead of wallowing in self pity and reacting, we should be proactive and choose to smile in the face of the storm. I’m saying that God only allows issues that he knows we can bear. So if we’re up against it, it is because we can conquer it!
It does not matter what we had to deal with in 2010 (sicknesses, losses or even death) we must start 2011 with a decision to be positive no matter what. To keep our heads up and not be blown away by whatever wind hits us. To look within and draw strength for ourselves and for the people that look up to us and learn from us (you might think there’s no one watching or looking or learning but trust me, there is).
“It is not what happens to you that determines how far you will in life, it is how you handle what happens to you” – Zig Ziglar
God is able!
Have a positive-attitude-filled year!!
Ogochukwu Okonji is a young lady who loves to inspire and motivate people. She does not see herself as a writer but loves to write.
She is driven by a desire to see positive changes in the life of everyone she meets either with her spoken words or written words. Ogochukwu loves babies and is constantly fascinated by new-borns. She draws inspiration from everything she sees, hears, feels and experieinces. Her writings can be found at HeartSpeak .