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Posted by Editor On May - 24 - 2011

Sesame Mosweu is taking Bostwana media industry by storm; a true MOGUL in the making. She is not only a radio and TV presenter but an actress, lawyer and entrepreneur. Sesame has been on radio for 4 years and television since she was 19 years old.

Woman Making Moves: Jinna Mutune

Posted by Editor On May - 23 - 2011

A young, energetic rising star, Jinna Mutune is an aspiring Director from Eastern Africa whose native country of East Africa provides the perfect backdrop and inspiration for her creative mind. Jinna majored in Directing and Producing at the South African School of Motion Picture Medium and Live Performance [AFDA, Johannesburg, South Africa] and a course in Film Studies from the Houston Community College in Texas, USA and Fitchburg University (MA)

Woman Making Moves: Lisa Mundembe-Chuma

Posted by Editor On May - 23 - 2011

Apart from being an International Speaker for Schools in the UK, Lisa Mundembe-Chuma, originally from Zimbabwe is also the founder of Inspirational Woman Magazine a global women’s magazine that promotes unity amongst all women and celebrates women despite possible differences.

Woman Making Moves: Tiffany Aliche

Posted by Editor On May - 23 - 2011

Tiffany Aliche, better known as ‘The Budgetnista’ describes herself as a preschool teacher, tomboy, travelnista, social butterfly, chatterbox turned financial coach, speaker and author. A passionate teacher of financial empowerment, the New Jersey native earned a Bachelor’s Degree in Business Administration from Montclair State University and passed up a career in corporate America to teach undeserved youth in Newark, NJ.

Woman Making Moves:Amanda Ebokosia

Posted by Editor On May - 23 - 2011

Amanda Ebokosia is the founder and CEO of The Gem Project, Inc. The Gem Project is a nonprofit organization that educates school-age children, youth, and young adults about issues that are affecting them and their communities. Through the use of the organization's innovative programs, the Gem Project is able to hone the skills of leadership and community organizing skills of our youth.

Woman Making Moves:TolumiDE

Posted by Editor On May - 23- 2011

TolumiDE, pronounced toe-LU-me-day, is a Nigerian - Canadian Singer and Songwriter. Her name is a fusion of er first name Tolu and last name Olumide. TolumiDE who currently lives in Washington, DC was born in Toronto, Canada, she attended Primary and High School in Lagos, Nigeria and later studied Fine Art in the University in Toronto, Canada.

Woman Making Moves: Vickie Remoe

Posted by Editor On May - 23 - 2011

While in grade school, most of the comments from her teachers on her report card noted "very clever but too talkative” what they did not know was that Vickie was destined for greatness with her skill. Born and raised in Sierra Leone, host Vickie Remoe, who is currently in Freetown, received a Bachelor of Arts Degree in Political Science from Haverford College in Pennsylvania, U.S.A

Woman Making Moves: Myne Whitman

Posted by Editor On May - 23 - 2011

Nigerian blogger and author, Nkem Akinsoto is greatly known in the blogsphere by her pen name Myne Whitman. The full time writer and blogger has a Masters degree in Public Health Research but decided to follow her childhood dreams of writing popular fiction to get people writing.

Of Strong Women and Desert Plants

Posted by AfroElle On 2:13 AM
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“I can’t take this anymore”.

“This discomfort is killing me”

“How much longer till I’m drowned by this strange circumstance?”

“I was not made for this…I was not configured to go through this…”

Those were her thoughts as she sat down, curled up in the dark. In the desert place of her heart, she longed for love, for warmth, for a light of hope no matter how tiny. Yeah, she’d been through some tough times but nothing in her past prepared her for what she was facing now. Perhaps there might have been a warning she failed to heed, or maybe a signal she did not receive. But this, this was way too much to handle.

Have you ever been in that place where you feel you’ve reached your breaking point? Like water in a pot on fire, you feel that any extra heat will cause you to boil over into the fire. You feel like there’s no more fight in you for this battle. In short, you have reached your elastic limit. You’re now at the point beyond which you simply cannot take any more push.

I’ve learnt to pay attention to life, to nature and to everything around me because lessons come our way in ways we least expect. While we’re so busy looking to the skies for answers, we miss the flowers budding, the butterfly’s metamorphosis and the ant colony building diligently. 

Truth is, if you’re going through it, it’s because you can handle it. I have realized that we are just like desert plants. Those plants are subjected to the most intense heat yet they do not wither in fear. They are subjected to extremely cold conditions and yet they do not become extinct as a result.

Allow me to tell you about two special types of desert plants: Xerophytes (The ‘X’) and Phreatophytes (The ‘P’)

The Xs have learnt to adapt to their lifestyle by replacing traditional leaves with spines and thorns. These spines and thorns help it retain moisture and prevent excessive loss. An X is a defensive person, who has developed mechanisms and attitudes as a result of the situation in which they have found themselves. They close up their lives to love and are not even willing to show any love. They become withdrawn and attack anyone that makes an attempt at getting close. They are bitter people.

The Ps adapt by growing their roots extremely deep into the ground. The farther into the desert sand the roots extend, the more likely the plants will be able to tap into the water beneath…and that’s how they survive.
Wouldn’t you rather be a P person? A P is a strong person who gets better because of the situation, she digs deep until she finds the lessons…the message and the reason for which she is going through.  Armed with these lessons, she survives and comes out wiser and in a better position to help another person.

You do not have to be an ‘X'; walking around with heavy shoulders and your issues written all over your face. You can be a ‘P’…strong, determined, resilient, capable and free. Those are the kinds of women that make better homes and a better community.

Stay blessed!

Ogochukwu Okonji is a young lady who loves to inspire and motivate people. She does not see herself as a writer but loves to write.
She is driven by a desire to see positive changes in the life of everyone she meets either with her spoken words or written words. Ogochukwu loves babies and is constantly fascinated by new-borns. She draws inspiration from everything she sees, hears, feels and experieinces. Her writings can be found at HeartSpeak .


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