Posted by AfroElle On 12:46 AM
What comes to mind? Food, naturally the chicken and chips, the pizzas, burgers and all. However, we’ll be looking at things a little differently for the purpose of this article. These are my own definitions:
When you order and decide to sit down and eat in, some of the food might fall on the table or floor, and the cleaner promptly sweeps and disposes off it. After eating, you may even use the toilet and “download” before leaving for wherever else is on your schedule for the day. Who knows? You could even leave the premises as close to hungry as when you came in and thoughts of the possibility of another fast food on your street might have started running through your mind.
The eat-in sister is an answer to an almost urgent, immediate need. Not much thought is given to “eating” her. She also honestly doesn't mind a quickie or a fling. It’s a mindset that lives in the now; believes that good relationships/marriages are old fashioned and hardly exist. After the guy leaves the restaurant, she’s as good as forgotten; there’s little or no value.
Take a typical day when you’re running late for a meeting but very hungry; all you need to do is stop by a fast food restaurant, grab a bite with the plan to munch on the go. So, you probably finish it all up on the way, clean up, and if you’re a good citizen, wait till you get to your destination before you dispose of the waste.
The take away sister gets into a relationship on the go. Her relationships change as the locations change, so some take weeks, some months. There seems to be a huge need for completeness per time; there’s a lot of focus on “me” in this case as well as a lot of talk about her “fantasy relationship” but no depth/content/long term thinking.
It’s been a long day at work. You long for the peace and tranquility of your home, and having dinner whichever way you want it, in the privacy of your home and at your own pace. You can truly enjoy every bite without feeling self conscious or distracted by your environment. You’re not likely to waste the food if you can’t finish it; you can always refrigerate and microwave. The main point of the take home is that of true value, no wastage and no urgency and undue rush to get the food in and get things over with.
The take home sister is balanced and prepared – spiritually, emotionally, mentally for a long term relationship. This takes several years of self development, learning so as to have the right mindset to be a take home babe. That’s where many people wish to be but their actions don’t align. They want to eat or get eaten quickly, in case they don’t make it home.
How do you see yourself? Do you see sufficient value in yourself to warrant your waiting to be taken home? Is the idea just desirable or are you putting in the discipline required to make it happen? Are you an eat in, take away or take home babe?
You deserve the best if you've invested in yourself to be the best and move with the kind of people you want to attract. Put yourself to use so that you can be useful, then valuable, then desirable. Home is where you belong, make it there!
Temitope Akinyemi is an exceptional and natural born organizer. She also excels well in Leadership and support leadership roles. She regularly combines the role of Events Manager, Human Resource Expert Trainer, Writer, Counselor and Administrator. Temitope Akinyemi has a passion for building healthy relationships and marriages. She is also the author of www.topeakinyemi.com, a website through which she reaches out to thousands of people globally, building and growing virtue in relationships.
She is married and blessed with a daughter and a son.