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Posted by Editor On JULY - 18 - 2011

Time flies, can you believe we are already past the half year mark? Just the other day we welcomed the New Year with long lists of resolutions. Well, the year doesn’t feel so new anymore, it’s that time of the year when energy levels sink, we get sucked into the routine of life and many times become complacent. All these are symptoms of Mid Year blues.


Posted by Editor On JULY- 18 - 2011

Growing up, I was a ‘someday girl’. I had dreams of someday publishing a book, someday working for a newspaper, someday being an editor, someday. Until one day many years later I woke up to the realization that someday was today; the only assurance we have, not 2 years from now or tomorrow but today.


Posted by Editor On JULY - 18 - 2011

For some April habitually brings in to mind Spring; sunshine, blooming flowers, the green of trees and sliding into flip flops. For me, April is just April because luckily where I live the beauty of ‘Spring’ and getting high on Vitamin D is something I experience every day.


Posted by Editor On JULY - 18 - 2011

As I kid, one of my all time favorite TV shows was 'The Jefferson’s'. As I write this, the theme song is playing in my head. “Well we’re movin’ on up, to the east side, moving on up, to a deluxe apartment in the sky. Moving on up, to the east side, moving on up,we finally got a piece of the pie.


Posted by Editor On JULY - 18 - 2011

February is a special month, apart from the red roses, boxes of chocolate, great deals and the romance, it’s also the month we celebrate the history and contributions of African American men and women to society in the name of Black History Month.


Posted by Editor On JULY - 18- 2011

Happy New Year!Yes, I know I'm a little late on the wishes just like the way I'm late with our new January Issue but it's finally here. New year, new layout, new name, basically, new things. Its all about the new new! For all those who knew this blog as The Ladies Room, I now introduce you to AfroElle; a blog for women of afro-descent from all over the world.


Posted by Editor On JULY - 18 - 2011

The year has literally flown by, I can't believe it's already December. To many, December is a month of in depth self evaluation and stock taking; taking that walk down memory lane to see if you accomplished the goals you set at the beginning of the year.It's also about looking at your present to see what has worked for you or what you need to eliminate before you head on to the new year.

Break-Up Survival Tips

Posted by AfroElle On 6:19 AM
Parting ways with someone you love can be a truly devastating experience. Whether the break up is the result of a shocking infidelity or an amicable agreement, the affects can be life altering. Both parties will now have to get used to living without the other. For some letting go and moving on is extremely hard.

Here is a list of tips for surviving a break up with your sanity in tact.

Let It Out
Go ahead and scream at the top of your lungs, cry, stomp around or toss a pillow or two. Getting your release is extremely important for you to be able to move forward and be done with the past. Don’t try to be ‘strong’ and keep yourself from mourning the loss of your relationship. You will only be setting yourself up for a breakdown later. Even worse, you’ll create baggage that can be carried into your next relationship, potentially dooming it from the very start. Once you release, pull yourself up by the boot straps and prepare your heart and mind to move forward.

This is probably the hardest thing to do especially if you were the one treated wrong. Regardless of how hard it might be, it’s necessary. Moving on is impossible without it. Refusing to forgive is like taking poison and expecting someone else to die from it. Don’t give your ex that much power over your mind, body or your heart. If you were the one doing wrong, forgive yourself. Acknowledge your wrong doings, take ownership, offer a sincere apology and suck it up.  It is what it is and beating yourself up over your loss won’t do anyone any good.

Clean House
When your ex leaves make sure they take everything with them. Don’t allow them to leave anything behind. Also, don’t hold anything back. Holding onto things both physically and mentally won’t help you move on nor will it bring your ex back for good.

Assess Yourself
Take a personal inventory. Be honest with yourself and list all of the ways you may have contributed to the decline of your relationship. Analyze your strengths and weaknesses as a companion. Work on weeding out your problem areas. Most importantly find out what your core values are. This means determine what’s most important to you in life and in relationships. Give those core values priority when entering a new relationship.

Get Back in the Game
Put the past behind you and embrace your new life as a single person. Learn to enjoy time alone. Try new things. Explore new places. Then when you’re ready, date different types of people. Don’t get into another committed relationship too quickly. Remember to have fun.

Put these practices in place and be happily single. You will find love again.

Renee Daniel Flagler is a marketing professional, award-winning freelance writer and author of three novels, “Mountain High Valley Low,” “Miss-Guided” and “In Her Mind.”  She is the relationship columnist at XI Online Magazine and the creator of www.SheBiz.net, a lifestyle blog for women pursuing their passions. Connect with Renee at Facebook, Twitter, or www.reneedanielflagler.com.

1 Response to "Break-Up Survival Tips"

  1. alt com Said,

    Surround yourself with friends who care so you won't feel bad after a break-up.


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