Posted by AfroElle On 11:33 AM
The key to a long lasting relationship is surviving the rough spots. We all know that trust, honesty, loyalty and communication are survival to the success of any relationship. However, it’s when trust is broken, honesty has been compromised, loyalty seems to sway or communication gets foggy that couples must begin to have problems. These and many other stumbling blocks can be the can bring even the strongest relationship to an end.
Here are some pointers to help you make it last.
Be Friends First: Friendship is extremely vital for a long lasting relationship. Your partner should be your best friend, and like most BFFs, they should know you inside and out. Friends respect and accept you for who you are, without trying to “change, correct or perfect” you. Too many people try to change their partners into what they would like for them to be. But remember, if they change, they are no longer the person you fell in love with. Apply all the principles for successful friendships to your partner and you will not only enrich your relationship but you’ll be well on your way to long lasting love. True friends are always by your side, through thick and thin!
Put In The Effort: Anything worth having is worth fighting for – figuratively! Nothing good comes easy. When you see a couple that has stood the test of time and still appear to be wallowing in happiness, it is not because things were as easy as they made it look. They have put major time and effort into their relationship during the good times and the bad. Together, they are consistently at work investing in the strength of their union.
Demonstrate Your Love: Act like you want to be together. Show your partner that you love and appreciate them. They should feel like they are the number one priority in your life. Remain considerate, never taking the other for granted. Spend quality time together. Kiss often and hold hands. The power of touch goes a long way.
Do Not Let Problems Fester: Handle issues promptly. Do not carry an attitude for days at a time or constantly throw the cold shoulder. Deal with your issues head on, quickly and respectfully. If you were in the wrong, be mature about the situation and offer a sincere apology so you can move on. If you were the one offended and the problem was not a deal breaker, then accept an apology and agree to move. If both of you feel that you were right, then agree to disagree and work together to reach some kind of common resolution. Always be truthful and let your partner know how you really feel and how the issue has affected you. The faster you resolve an issue the quicker you’ll have peace again.
Have a Life of Your Own: Do not suffocate your partner. Both of you should take time for yourself to engage in things you enjoy separately. Everyone needs an outlet and deserves some “me time” for the sake of their own sanity.
Renee Daniel Flagler is a marketing professional, award-winning freelance writer and author of three novels, “Mountain High Valley Low,” “Miss-Guided” and “In Her Mind.” She is the relationship columnist at XI Online Magazine and the creator of www.SheBiz.net, a lifestyle blog for women pursuing their passions. Connect with Renee at Facebook, Twitter, or www.reneedanielflagler.com.